Welcome to your Body. Remembers pleasure. I'm your host, Rahi Chun. This podcast is devoted to sexual embodiment, intimacy, and the body's innate capacity to heal, feel, and remember pleasure. If something here resonates with you, you're welcome to explore more writings and resources@rahichun.com. And now let's begin.

 Today's episode is a replay of a masterclass given by myself and Dr. Jennifer Lang, board certified gynecologic, oncologist and obstetrician. We explore three simple questions from our perspectives as a certified sexological body worker.

And from Jen's training from the Western medical model and her practice as an integrative gynecologist. The three questions are, what is genital health? What is genital pleasure, and what is genital wholeness? For practical purposes, we cover specific techniques for how to de arm the clitoris, G-spot, and cervix for vulva owners.

And how to de arm the frenulum, coronal ridge, and base of the penile shaft for penis owners. Jen and I are close, and dear friends and collaborators, and our conversation provides insights into how sexuality is viewed and treated from different professional scopes and lenses. Jen and I are going to hold space for this hour.

The format of it is going to be we're gonna introduce ourselves. We really want this to be full of practical, actionable, and effective material. So we're gonna answer the three questions that were posed, which is, what is genital health? What is genital pleasure? And what is genital wholeness from our respective.

Perspectives. I'm really happy to be a part of this conversation today. As always, it's fascinating when we get to be in conversation with each other. My name's Jennifer Lang. I am an obstetrician gynecologist, a board certified and fellowship trained gynecologic oncologist. And I have a practice in integrative gynecology and preventive oncology based in Los Angeles, California.

Who am I? I'm still discovering that my name is Rahi Han. I am a somatic sex educator, sexological body worker and creator of a body of work called somatic sexual wholeness which endeavors to hold space for repairing rupture sequentially That happened during the evolution of one sexual embodiment.

So what that means specifically is first addressing. Ruptures that occur during the developmental years of one's evolution, and then addressing ruptures that occur during one's adolescence, which largely, have to do with boundary ruptures and repair, and then addressing any obstacles in the pelvic bowl within one's adult experiences.

And over the years, I've developed a base of knowledge in the realm of genital armoring or genital de armoring, and I teach that worldwide. Let's jump into these questions. Fantastic. Okay, great. The way we thought that we would dive in is really just. Thinking about the question, what is genital health?

What does that mean in your practice, Rahi? And how do you begin to even address and explore this when a client arrives to work with you? Sure. When I think of genital health, I really think about what is the client's. Ability to attune to and relate with their own genitalia. So genital health can mean like a million different things to a million different people.

What does it mean to you, and that's the question I would pose to listeners whether you're here live or listening on the recording, is, what is your capacity to attune, to listen for and respond to your own genitals desires? Curiosities or questions, and I feel like this ability to attune to what it is that our genitalia wants is influenced by two, two different areas.

One is the state of our nervous system, and the other is what is the conditioning messages, beliefs we received about our own genitalia growing up. When it comes to the nervous system, we know that the state in which our nervous system is in affects everything from oxytocin flow in the body to the oxygenation of blood, which affects our genital health and specifically our genital.

Sensitivity tissue sensitivity. It also affects the degree to which we're hypervigilant in our mind, watching, assessing, judging, or are we really in the felt space of our genitalia? I emphasize the. Importance of where our nervous system is, because I believe that's the foundation of our genital health and our sexual health.

So when our body is in what's called the social engagement stage, when we're feeling safe, the emotions most available to our bodies are those of compassion, calmness, groundedness, and I think very importantly, curiosity. So we can really be in a state of curiosity about our own genital health, our body.

What are bodies wanting? And the physiological effect of this is that this increases our ability to relate and connect. Increases Oxytocin, increases the oxygenation of our blood. It increases atrocity and voice. What it decreases is defensive behavior. When our nervous system goes up into either a fight or flight mode or a fond response, what goes up are our adrenaline, our heart rate, our defensive responses, and what decreases is our sexual functioning or sexual responsiveness.

And of course, when we move up into the freeze. In addition to the emotional states of dissociation, numbness, depression, shame is up here in freeze. And that's how debilitating shame is. Either sexual shame or feeling shamed from our primary group. And again, what decreases is our sexual responsiveness.

This is an indication of how vital. Nervous, the role our nervous system plays in our genital health. And then the other area is really how did we learn what we believe about our genitalia? I think it goes all the way back to how we were potty trained, how we were diaper changed, what threats.

To belonging or perceived threats to love. And the loss of love was there regarding how our genitals were either welcomed, shamed respected, or dismissed. And that's something that each of us, has a very unique conditioning around. So in answer to the question of what is genital health, I believe it.

It really comes around like how attuned and responsive can we be to listening and attuning to what our genitalia wants. Jen. Yeah, it's such an interesting and really different view of the concept of health than that which, I was raised in a traditional kind of western medical model where health is the flip side would be disease.

We think of the meaning or purpose of the study of medicine is to treat disease. And you're actually saying no, health, embracing health is attuning and listening. So if we're in attuning and listening and something isn't feeling good do we call that disease or do we call that health?

It's a really interesting philosophical difference in, in mindset, and this is why I love our conversations rahi, because we can come at them from such a different training and background, but, arrive at such, similar conclusion where, you know our highest goal for the clients and patients that come to us is that there is both that attuning to.

Recognizing of the voices of listening to and and the proceeding in the, with curiosity, as you said. I love that word, with curiosity of what our genitals have to say to us and how we can best care with them and for them. Yeah, I think something that you and I agree upon, which I appreciate so much, is the understanding that the body is inherently wise and has all the wisdom of knowing, what it best needs.

We just need to create the spaciousness. The capacity to listen to that wisdom and actually facilitate the attuning process of what the body's trying to tell us. Yeah. Would you say that somebody who presents to you with say, pain in the, in their vulva, they're really attuned to that pain. They feel that pain on a daily basis, or they feel that pain when they engage in genital touch?

What would you, how do you reflect on that patient's or that client's presentation and this idea of health? Sure. Great question. My, my approach would be the body is inherently wise, there is a reason and probably a good reason why the body is needing to guard or protect itself, which is resulting in this discomfort or pain.

So what is the threat to the genitalia's wellbeing? What is it making it want to protect itself or create this pain? And like from there we can look at what's happening in the client's life now, but I tend to wanna thread it all the way back to what is this client's relationship with their genitalia and what do they believe, in regards to, their own sexuality and sexual wholeness.

And oftentimes there's some sort of pattern that can be followed from their earliest years. Yeah, I'll just contribute, somebody showed up in a gynecology office complaining of vulvar pain. We might begin the process of ruling out, different kind of mechanistic, ways that pain could be generated.

So we might. Check for, presence of a virus, a bacteria, a fungus. We might look at the nerves and see if there's any trigger to, we might look at skin conditions and see if there's an autoimmune phenomenon taking place or inflammation coming from any other place. And, like going down this list of ruling out.

We might arrive and this is again, this is traditional gynecology, we might arrive at oh, nothing. Nothing to be found here must be in your head. And what I love about the somatic wholeness approach is it's like history, head, mind experience, polyvagal theory, nervous system set up.

Is interwoven so intimately with. Our understanding of all of those other mechanisms. So it could be completely true that there is a held belief about one's genitalia's and a a bacterial imbalance that the two can coexist. That it's not like one or the other. The two can coexist and I'm always curious is it the emotions that is creating the virus or the physiological illness?

Or the predisposition to it or the lowered immune system that allows, Yeah. All it's so connected. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, and it's fascinating. That's what makes it fascinating is like no, nothing is cookie cutter. Each body has its own unique history and its emotional relationship with their own genitalia profoundly affects the state of their genitalia.

Said. Said. Do you wanna move on to what is pleasure? Sure. That's a big topic. What is genital pleasure? In thinking about that question, there are like two kind of rabbit holes. I went down what is genital pleasure for one person, it could be totally different than another.

And so it really calls upon each of us to understand the genital landscape of pleasure, of our own genitalia. And this is where the practice of genital mapping, like I'm a certified sexological body worker in our field, genital mapping is a pillar and all it is. A felt sense, somatic understanding of the erogenous anatomy.

And I say felt sense because we can look at images and be told what the erogenous anatomy is, but it's very different than actually feeling the sensations in the body that the different erogenous anatomy are des are designed to create. And then once those erogenous anatomy areas are.

Understood the com, the combination of these different erogenous zones elicits yet another kind of, symphony of different sensations and pleasure within the body. When it comes to genital pleasure, I feel like every genitalia so unique. I had a training last year and there were some vulva owners who were, who referred to their vulvas as their Cox.

It's very unique. And then now, there's a, people are taking different hormones to align with the gender that they identify with. So it really, it's upon each of us to understand the. Erogenous capacity of our own genitalia. Now in concert with that, the other kind of rabbit hole that I go down when posed this question is once you understand your genital erogenous anatomy, there needs to be a capacity to give voice.

Two you need to be able to give voice to that erogenous area. So it's not just that honey, my cock wants attention. It's that honey, my frenulum would love some contact or my, my, my premium would love some loving touch. Or it's not just my vagina wants attention, it's the glands of my clitoris or the base of the shaft or whatever it is.

So it can be very specific and that. Really encourages and further deepens the erogenous and felt sense capacity of the genitalia. Chen, how does this land with you and what does genital pleasure mean for an integrative gynecologist? A great question, and it's, one of my, I think, major frustrations with my field is that as opposed to your field where, in a very hands-on way, you're able to.

Be in conversation with the client's body around pleasure. I think I'd lose my medical license if I did that, and how insane is that? That my field it. Procedures all the time that we would classify as painful, but if we dared to give pleasure to a patient, we could, be kicked out by the board.

This is a really fascinating, and this is I think why you and I professionally have collaborated so much over the years is I just know that my field has these kind of. Currently limits on what we're able to address, and if somebody comes, to a gynecologist seeking further. Exploration of their genital health and pleasure.

I know where they're really going to, find the most benefit is working with a somatic sexual wholeness provider. It's not necessarily my office. So what does pleasure mean for me? It, it means that that human is able to experience the full spectrum bandwidth and capacity of sensations.

Bringing, bringing joy, bringing bliss, bringing orgasm if they want to. And that they don't feel limited by some aspect of their genitals function or feeling. Is it so vague? Yeah. No, but it's, yeah. I think it, it has to be vague because it is so unique for each body. Yeah. But that, I remember when you told me how in your gynecologic training how little time was spent on genital pleasure, and yet, so many of my clients they will go to their OBGYNs seeking answers to why they're not experiencing sexual pleasure.

Yeah, there, there is so little training. There's now a bit of a subspecialty moving in the field of sexual health and, pleasure is addressed there, but it's really because as practitioners we have sought this out and, we're demanding that this be just because so many patients and clients show up with this is their rightful.

Goal desire to explore pleasure and, but yeah, in terms of the anatomy, the genital mapping as it relates to pleasure there's none of that, in anatomy lab, there's, a little label arrow pointing to the glands of the clitoris and, that's it, that's, it's really so limited, so un underused and appreciated.

Speaking of glands of the clitoris, there are some images I'd like to share with the group here. Let's do it. As Jen pointed out like the, so here's the full. Majesty of the Clitoral network. So this is an image that, hi. So this is from Sherry Winston and she has one of my favorite, she is author, one of my favorite books, the Women women's Anatomy of Pleasure.

She has given me permission to use this image. So this is all the erectile network. So you know the engorge tissue. Within the female anatomy, you have the perennial sponge here at the floor or at the base? Just inside the vaginal opening. But look at how much engorge tissue there are in these vestibular bulbs.

On either. So this is under the outer labia. There's as much engorge tissue. Here as there is in a in a male penis. And yet, we're not taught this, as Jen mentioned, we're just taught that the clitoris is the tip here. The here it's labeled as head, but it's the glands and you have an entire shaft.

You've got these legs. Then the urethral sponge, which houses the G-spot and the A spot or the anterior Forex area is also all engorge able as well. I shared this statistic with my class that they've done studies in America and the average American woman requires anywhere from 20 to 45 minutes of foreplay.

For the full erogenous capacity of their genitalia to be available. And the average lovemaking session in America is five to seven minutes. Okay, here's another image. This is from Martin BOA's training. Again, I received his permission. So this is just some of the anatomical erogenous areas. So you have the CLS here.

I don't know if you can see my pointer, the glands. The ctor glands, right? Here is the vaginal opening and here's the urethral sponge, which how just the g spot in his image. He's made the, a spot or the anterior Forex quite large. The nerve plexus is very unique in every bodies'. Configuration.

So some g-spot areas might be large, might be more sensitive and stimulating. And for some the anterior fornix may be it all depends. And as you can see, the proximity of the urethral sponge here to the bladder, which is here, is why oftentimes when the root the urethral sponge is being stimulated.

There's a sensation of needing to pee. 'Cause it's right up against the bladder here. Here on the bottom is the PS, the perennial sponge. Then you have the cervix back here, which for most clients I find are armored. When they first come in, because for most teenagers, they're being penetrated and their cervixes are being banged up against before they're ready.

And if there's proper foreplay, then the uterus lifts the cervix out of the way of an incoming. Finger dildo or penis, you just used a word that I'm not sure all of our listeners are familiar with. Armored can, we really haven't, the idea of armoring the genitals. Can you break that down a little bit?

Sure. So genital, so armor is the bodies wise. Wise and protective response when there is a threat to its safety or a perceived threat to its safety. So if something doesn't feel good, the tissues and fascia, especially because it's so sensitive around the genitalia, will. We'll start to numb or harden or create discomfort that shows up as pain or desensitization or de connection.

And this is what we refer to as armor. I started to say the cervix here is often armored because because if it's not ready to be, connected with or is connected with in a rough way before it's ready, then it will start to harden or from colposcopies or the, IUD insertion or removal.

Anything that makes it feel unpleasant, where it needs to protect itself, it will harden an armor. So here's the cervix right below the cervix, or right next to it, I should say. There's a little p here. This is the posterior Forex. So up here we have the anterior Forex. Anterior of the cervix.

Here we have the P or the posterior fornix, posterior of the cervix. And then down here we have the K spot. So the K spot, it stands for Kundalini spot. It's hard to see here because this image is 2D and in a 3D scenario it's just center right of the client's rectum, but it's most easily accessible.

Intravaginal. I'll talk about the K spot a little later, but this is just to give you a map of it. I think most of society knows about the G-spot by now and knows about the clitoris, but I don't know if people are familiar with the posterior fornix or the potential of cervical pleasure or the K spot.

So again, going back to genital pleasure, these are all. Areas that are necessary to explore to gauge how your erogenous areas want to be want to be explored. And so how do you begin the process of mapping with a client? The process of mapping, the first thing is downregulating the nervous system to make sure the client can really attune.

Give voice to what their body is wanting. That's foundational. Otherwise, it's a practitioner kind of doing their thing on a client's body and the sense of empowerment gets lost. So it really, there really has to be a downregulation of the client's nervous system. A practice of the client attuning to what their body wants, giving voice to what their body wants, and then receiving it.

Only then is there mapping done. And so the mapping, again, it's usually after something I call full body active consent, which is like a full body massage or full body sensual massage based on what the body is wanting to explore of itself. Once their nervous system is downregulated, they could give voice to their body, what the body wants to explore as far as the kinds and quality of the touch.

And then we do the genital mapping. And it's the same whether it's a male client or a female client or a transgendered client. It's really empowering the client of their erogenous capacity of their genitalia. Beautiful. Thanks. You wanted to move into male? Yes. I think most male genitalia, like it's the shaft and the testicles that get a lot of attention.

But it's actually the frenulum here where the coronal ridge meets the head. That's the, that's extremely sensitive on most penises. The Corona itself, the coronal Ridge has different sensations all the way around the ridge the glands of the penis or the head as some people call. And even the urethral opening has a unique sensation.

And then so below the testicles, you have the per and when a man's ous capacity is. Is filling, is getting full. The prostate starts to harden and becomes much more sensitive to erogenous stimulation. And, some people love intra anal stimulation of the prostate. It's great. It's not necessary.

You can stimulate the sensitivity of the prostate when there is arousal by just applying pressure against the premium. You can stay external and still stimulate and draw arousal and pleasure with the prostate. The under shaft, or oftentimes it's called the Raffi tends to be more sensitive than the sides or the top, but the frenulum is right here.

Whether it's a circumcised penis or uncircumcised, you just bring the fold of the skin back and and the coronal ridge can be explored manually. It can be explored with a tongue, but the sensitivity can be heightened with, de arming and greater sensitivity, greater attention to these areas.

It's the neat thing is, I filled this with the whole genitalia and this is, key to genital pleasure is like the more attention is brought with sensitivity and loving attention to any part of the body, the more sensitive it's gonna get. So areas that are armored or desensitized can certainly become resensitized.

I'm just gonna comment that something that I enjoy so much about your work, Rahi and this masterclass is just the way we are really de-stigmatizing pleasure right now. Like it, it's so funny how, as medical professionals we will, contort ourselves to avoid talking about just.

Pleasure and there's such a level of discomfort that somehow pleasure for its own sake is not valid, right? That pleasure needs to be there to fix a problem or if there's some underlying. Disease or pathology That's inhibiting pleasure. Then maybe we could talk about it, but pleasure for its own sake.

Still carries so much stigma and and I just feel that having these kinds of conversations is really important for, working to change that. Working to change it and just for general health of a society. Yeah. Like pleasure is medicine. Pleasure is what, it's like after you've had a great lovemaking session or cuddling or snuggling or making, there's more step in your, there, there's just more energy in your whole system.

So I think it's just energy, it's life force. And I agree. I think if we focused on pleasure. As a society, not only would we be a lot happier, but I think a lot of the ailments and those diseases would would be minimized. That seems like a great segue into talking about wholeness. Yes.

What genital wholeness is. Sure. How you define that. I think we've been talk like genital wholeness for me. Is like what we've been discussing, the ability to attune to and really listen for what the genital authentically desires, 'cause we, I think in our society, we often use our genitalia to perform, to affirm our sexual egos.

Sometimes to distract ourselves or to avoid things, like that's all fine, no judgment about that. But to really. To really listen for what its desires are. But genital wholeness for me is to remove any obstacles in the way of wholeness. So for me, that comes in the form of genital deaming.

And again, when you pose the question, Jen, like armor can come in the form of the tissues in fascia. Feeling a need to protect itself from a threat or a perceived threat. And like the obvious examples would be like a rape or an incest or a molestation, but it can also come from a. Loving couples who are in a pattern of having penetrative intercourse before the body is fully warmed up and ready.

So it's really, and then over years or over decades, armor can form. And so it can also happen from situations where there's like a. A threat of one's genitalia from extreme religious beliefs. If you believe, 'cause I've got clients who were raised to believe if they're like if they're feeling sexual arousal, it means they're gonna go to hell.

So imagine what that does to a child. If they believe, if they've been taught that arousal means they're going to hell and they're wiping themselves after urinating and they feel some pleasure. So this is how armor forms so genital wholeness for me. Is really removing the obstacles and armor in the way of feeling sexually, whole, and embodied.

And I do wanna share some kind of practical tools and techniques for de arming the genitalia, but I want to hear from you first. Jen. Yeah, I love your definition of wholeness and I would even relate it back to what you said just a few moments before about life force and the benefits for all of society.

I feel and when you were talking about the ways people use their genitals, I, what I wanted to add is, there's just so much pain and so much trauma in our society by, genitals that have been used for power and domination. You know it when you talked about in service to ego structure, like so much misuse of this beautiful life force energy for power and domination, and that has resulted in so much pain.

So I see wholeness as a reeducation of our entire society to destigmatize. Pleasure to attune to the authentic kind of somatic experiencing of our own bodies to a facility with consent based language with ourselves and with partners. And to an extension of that, pleasure factory, to the benefits of the entire world. That's how I see. Wholeness and I think that this kind of bridging of worlds, there, there's definitely something that modern medicine, there's a knowledge base, there's something to offer, but it is, it falls so far short of that vision for wholeness.

And that's why I love collaborating with you so much, Rahi, because I feel like these are really complimentary systems that together can lead, towards this idea of wholeness. Together, it can lead to a revolution. Yes. A pleasure revolution. A pleasure revolution. I love it. Okay. So there are specific techniques for de arming.

Different erogenous areas. So I wanna share a number of them here so that this is actually practical and you can have takeaways here. Once again, Jen asked me earlier about the process of how I do dapping and I really feel like these are important steps, not only for mapping, but before de armoring as well it goes without saying, but I should. But I do need to say that it's very important and critical that the nervous system feels very safe and downregulated before any kind of disarming. Because Deaming is touching into unintegrated emotions or oftentimes traumatic emotions from past traumatic events that are keeping.

The armor in place, there needs to be safety as the essential foundation for those emotions to come forward and feel safe enough to be expressed and discharged. And so just understand that the heart of Deaming is really bringing safety to parts of the genitalia that did not feel safe enough. To feel or express these emotions in the past.

So nervous system safety and then making sure that the body has the capacity to give voice to what it is that it wants. If it wants to pause, if it wants to stop, if it wants things di done differently. This is really where. The Bo body's genitalia can reclaim its agency, and then after the genital mapping, some specific techniques, clitoris, I feel is often overstimulated or over relied on.

It is the only. Anatomical part of the body that has no other function, but for pleasure. But it can be overstimulated, in a variety of ways. And so the easiest way to start to deamer the clitoris is a simple vaginal steam. And I recommend vaginal steaming for a variety of reasons, but that could be one easy way if the client's body is not ready to receive touch.

One effective way is if I'm facing the if one is facing the pelvis to hold the clitoral shaft in place with one hand or with one finger, usually in an index finger, and making tiny little circles down along the shaft from the base of the shaft down to the clitoral glands or head, and then when there is any discomfort burning, stinging to pause.

Just have the client breathe deeply into the stinging burning sensation and discharge that sensation with sound. So it might be and then emotion might come forward. It could be emotion from a past rape, it could be an emotion from something that is unknown. It doesn't really matter as long as that energy has an opportunity to discharge.

Now when you are self disarming, you can do it with yourself. And a great technique is to place a finger where the shaft is coming out of the body and have part of the finger on your pubic mound where the shaft is exiting the the body and the other part of the finger on the shaft that is just coming out of the body and doing little circles, all like a semicircle all the way around.

And again, if there's any burning, stinging discomfort to pause, just be with it. See if there's any memory or image coming to you, and breathe into it and discharge it with a sound. So those are some approaches for the clitoris. So the g the urethral sponge, so for the G-spot and the anterior area. I really love using organic castor oil, so I will place organic castor oil on the tip of my finger, and I will just.

Once the body is ready to receive my finger, I'll just set it against the G-spot. Organic castor or the, we know the property of the castor seed is such that it facilitates more blood flow and it breaks down scar tissue. So after about sometimes four or five, six minutes, my, the tip of my finger will start to feel blood pulsing at the G crest or at the G spot, and then my finger will just mirror.

That pulsing. And oftentimes the client will be like, oh God, what is that? I feel, and it'll be breaking up the armor at the G crest, and you can do that further in at the interior fornix as well. So organic castor oil. Oh, so I talked about the case spot earlier. So the case spot, so if this is the vaginal opening the case spot is just to the client's right of center and there's a little dip there.

It's on the floor. So this is the perennial sponge. This is the case. But just right of center, there's a little dip. And once you start massaging gently, what I have found is the client will start to say. Gosh, I feel something, but it's just so weird because it's right next to the rectum. So it's a weird sensation.

And then after continued palpation, something will happen and they'll be like, oh, I could see how eventually this could be pleasurable. And then the more it's palpated, the more stim the more sensations it elicits. And then eventually it'll be like, wow, this feels really good. And people can have.

Orgasms just from case but stimulation. So there's the cervix as well, and the cervix is its own unique holy grail to honor, I'll just say that. If you're deaming the cervix, you want to be very, the cervix responds to love, whether it's in love making or a loving touch, and it's the upper left hand quadrant, so that's the client's upper left hand quadrant of the cervix.

So the cervix and the Os that tends to. That often is re responsive or receptive. So what I do is I'll go in based on the client's guidance and I, the upper left hand quadrant, if there's some responsive sensation, then you just wanna expand that responsive sensation and just keep doing like either little strokes or microneedling, just like little gentle.

They call it dotting or microneedling. Sometimes I'll use two fingers on either side of the O or cervix or circles. But once I find an area that has responsiveness, I wanna have that grow. And a lot of times what's very effective with de arming. Is if the cervix is experiencing a little bit of responsiveness, not that much, but a little bit.

But let's say the client's clitoris is a real source of agency of pleasure, then I will simultaneously stroke both. And this will somehow, it rewires the brain because it's experiencing pleasure, but it's also experiencing palpation in an area that traditionally didn't have a lot of responsiveness, but that will start to change.

You can do that with any area intravaginally. You can do it with the urethral sponge and the clitoris if the clitoris is responsive. So any area of responsiveness with a more armored area can de arm that area. Fascinating and material that I wish, was widely disseminated for self diaring and disarming between partners, partner being yeah.

As well as professionally. I feel like if more practitioners had this knowledge, we would have so much more sensation and so much more pleasure accessible to us all. Think of all the, think of all the conflict within relationships that as a result of unfulfilled sexual desires. So I wanna briefly mention, so just to be fair, like some cock de armoring.

So here's the cock, a really, again. Nervous system, downregulation, full body sensual massage, giving voice to what the body wants. A lot of frenulums are armored because there's a lot of, a lot of guys when they're teenagers or in their twenties, certainly when I was a teenager, will over, I don't know, I don't wanna say over masturbate, but masturbate a lot and the frenulum can start to get tense.

So an easy way, tomor, the frenulum is to. Take a deep breath and on the exhale, just stretch. It just it's common sense. It's like when there's a tense part of the skin or body, you take an inhale. And just diagonally, stretch the frenulum very gently in, in opposing directions. It could be like a opposing left and right.

It could be like a an X. And then with the Coronal ridge, if there's any armor or desensitization there, you can do it by breathing in and then exhaling and just stretching the Coronal ridge. So you always wanna discharge given an area of discharging any armor, right? So you're not holding in unintegrated or unexpressed emotion or experience, but you're giving a discharge to it, right?

So you can do that all around the Kernel Ridge. Ah. And then, another thing for guys is sometimes the base of the shaft can accumulate armor, especially when there's a lot of performance pressure. Another way is just to grip the base of the shaft, make sure the shaft is like extended, and then on the exhale, just stretch the base of the shaft back to the left forward and right with each exhale.

So essentially what we're doing with the kernel ridge, the frenulum and the base is giving more space for blood to come in to to break up any hardened tissue and fascia. Are you also using castor oil with your caulk? D armoring? You could because it increases blood flow. I tend to use organic coconut oil but castor oil is especially good for areas.

That have scar tissue or have hardened, because it tends to break that up. Now you mentioned couples, Jen. So something I want to introduce is if couples wanna de arm or just have fun, you can de arm the frenulum and the, and or the clitoris by just gently rubbing the frenulum. On the clitoral glands, the shaft, or around the clitoral complex.

A guy can be like on his knees and you can place a pillow underneath the female body. You can either do this intentionally to de arm if the female C clitoris is armored or if the male flim is armored because there is a energetic frequency that is unique to the clitoris and the frenulum that will stimulate each other.

And so you can really de arm the fulu and clitoris that way. Or if parts of the Raffi or the under shaft are armored or places along the inner labia, you can also de arm this way and also make contact with the clitoral glands and the frenulum. Couples can, one, it's really hot foreplay, but it's also a way to bring more sensitivity by utilizing the energetic frequency of these genital erogenous areas.

For inclusiveness. I have no doubt that vulva owners can dror with other vulva owners and two cocks. Yes. Two cocks at the frenulum. Absolutely. I'm sure the energetic frequencies are right on as well. It'll blow the roof off your house. Yeah. Great.

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